In one of my presentations, I talked about how “not feeling safe” is usually at the root of most allergies and auto-immune disorders, and in that video I take you back to some possible childhood/infancy triggers.

But here’s the next step – once you’ve identified that you have a gut or visceral feeling of ‘not safe’, how do you change/heal that??

amalia-pregnant-fieldWell, I was out with my herd of horses and working with Amalia (soon to give birth to her first foal) on exactly this issue. I use a combination of talking and listening to the horses and then I use EFT Tapping on them. As I was exploring Amalia’s issues around past trauma and not feeling safe, it came to me in a flash: We can only get so far in trying to get ourselves to feel safe. Because let’s face it, governments change, rebel groups raid, and we are trashing our earth (resulting in earthquakes, tornadoes, ocean acidification, etc.) – your visceral self knows all this!

Amalia knows this too and as I talked/tapped with her I could only get so far on the ‘feeling safe’ issue. And then it just popped into my mind – the issue is NOT safety! The key is to experience, feel and believe in your own resilience.

That no matter what happens (and painful stuff does happen!) you will be able to handle it. That you have the resilience and flexibility to not be destroyed, gutted, or wiped out by the pain, trauma, or difficulty that may occur. If you’d like to experience what resilience could feel like, then join me as we tippity-tap through this limitation!

EFT Tapping is a powerful healing tool because it interfaces between the mind/body and thus can shift things at the energetic, or subconscious level. It also involves your bodily sensations and fears or memories that may be stored in your tissues or organs – so you may feel butterflies in your stomach, or heaviness in your chest. Don’t worry! These are all good signs that your body is speaking to you and signposting the way to your healing.

Note that you cannot just listen to this video! You must tap along with me on the acupuncture points for this therapy to work its magic.

In the beginning, we are going to start by venting, and voicing out loud all the negative crap that may be carried in your subconscious, or past experiences, or beliefs absorbed from your parents without conscious awareness (often before the age of 6).

So even though it may feel like we are focusing on the negative and you probably don’t want to dwell on that, it is an important part of the process for unlocking these limiting concepts and moving them into flow; so they can be transformed into life affirming, positive beliefs and feelings that make your world bigger. So if you’re feeling uncomfortable, just stay with me, keep tapping, and know that we have to go down into the depths to bring these things up into the light, where we can then shift and transform them. Stick with the video and know that the positive affirmations and life-enhancing re-frames are coming!

Follow along with me; tap on the acupuncture points I’m tapping on and say (out loud or in your head) the words I’m saying:

How To Increase Feelings of Safety & Resilience

13 thoughts on “How To Increase Feelings of Safety & Resilience

  • I think your article on feelings of safety is exactly what I needed to hear. Now that I’ve read and seen the video , this will help greatly to recover more quickly .thats what’s been holding me back Fear. The what if !!! Thank you LTYG team for providing this information ..most helpful .kind regards .inga .(.Australia )

    1. Hi Inga,

      Thanks so much for taking the time to write in. We’re glad to hear that the post resonated with you. All the best on your healing journey!

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  • Finding your website has been life changing thank you I have been reading a About tapping fore years and could not really get a handle on it you just made it very clear I can now start using it thank you again You are heaven sent Marilyn Bailey

  • Thanks Jini,

    That was fun. I DID feel lighter and more relaxed afterwards. I like the idea of resilience very much. It has connections in my mind to “This too shall pass” and refraining from judgement. Your mentioning of horses reminded me of Peter Levine’s work on healing trauma (see: He studied the way animals recover from stressful events too. Thanks so much.



  • SO glad I could help, Marilyn and Inga. And sometimes it helps to do the video again when you feel the fears coming back around, or you’re going through a really stressful time.

    And Garth, YES that is a great book and his work has influenced many. I noticed with my horses that their “fear reaction” actually varies quite a bit. And many of them – especially wild or semi-feral horses – don’t automatically run away. They may jump, but then they often plant their feet and investigate more thoroughly. The ones who’ve been “conditioned” by humans are actually more likely to bolt first, and ask questions later! Sometimes I’m out walking down the road with one of my young, semi-feral horses and something will scare both of us and we both jump or startle, and then I notice how we both, in the next nano-second, are asking, “What the hell is that?” and looking around – at the same moment as the fear is draining out of both our bodies. By the time we have identified (for example) that it is a deer that just broke cover, the adrenalin/fear is completely gone from our bodies and we are in total relaxation again – with no residual trauma or bracing/armoring. I believe the horses have helped me to VISCERALLY experience this and increase my fluency with it. Truly, I am blessed.

  • On the issue of fear and trauma,there is a lot of research being done just now in the UK,so as well as Peter Levine,also prof. Dan Siegel and Van Der Kolk( both of whom I was lucky to meet) have written some amazing stuff!
    Thank you for this great bit of info

    1. Hi Fi,

      Thanks so much for stopping by and leaving a comment. If you have any good links to share about the people you mentioned we’d love to check them out.

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  • Thank you Jini for this tapping session on resilience.
    You hit the nail on the head for me, as my body has been telling me for a long time that I was holding on to something but I wasn’t sure exactly what fear I was holding on to. Now I have something to work with!
    With gratitude,

    1. Hi Amy,

      You’re very welcome! We’re glad to hear that you found the session useful and thanks so much for the comment.

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  • I was so relax I dozed off. Amazing but I have been through so much with my Crohn’s for 50 years that if I am feeling great, I’m on remission now for the moment. I get scared of what is coming next.

    1. Hi Marta,

      Thank you so much for sharing your fears – and you are not alone.

      Do you have any experience with EFT tapping? In this video, Jini shows you step by step how EFT can benefit you on your healing journey – but here are a few additional resources for you also!

      Basic EFT Manual:
      Intro to EFT:
      Synergistic Healing – Meditation, Prana, EFT:

      In good health,
      Savannah B
      Customer Care

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